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Reliving Rape Because of A Brutal News Week

Brutal news week.

I used to draw down a wall between my life and the news.  As I anchored the news, reading about others’ pain, I didn’t feel my own.  I was inured from the intrusions of decades of sexual abuse.  I could focus on WhoWhatWhenWhereWhyHow and script the stories, read my own words, tell the story.  That’s over.  It’s actually been over for a few years until I could finally break down that inviolate partition.  I was healed.  I thought.

But this was a brutal news week. Read the rest of this entry »

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Gift Books for Martha Stewart Living Show – and For You!

We just wrapped.  Betsy and Brian and I – on the Martha Stewart Living show.  Asked to prepare a Gift Book segment, I have so many gorgeous, stimulating books that we didn’t get to them all.  Hence, the list here!

I’ll begin with Non-Fiction…because that’s where we left off on the show.  And, in fact, these are the most perfect of adult books. For the girlfriend with the snappy sense of humor, there’s Thx Thx Thx.  For your friend with the warm heart, there’s Unlikely Friendships - about unusual, feel-good pairings, like the kitten and gorilla, and how they came to be.  Two magnificent books about John F Kennedy – one, through Jackie’s own words.  It’s an historical, first-person view we so seldom get – and it comes with 8 CD’s.  Plus, there’s Chris Matthews’ stunningly different portrait of the president.  Two of the most amazing books in my gift collection focus on cultural icons – one fantasy (Batman), one real (Marilyn Monroe).  Although one might argue that Marilyn Monroe is fantasy, as well as Batman.  Both books are evocative, magnificent art, and a complete treasure.

Adult Non-Fiction:

 

1.     Thx Thx Thx: Thank Goodness for Everything by Leah Dieterich; Andrews McMeel

2.     Unlikely Friendships: 47 Remarkable Stories from the Animal Kingdom by Jennifer Holland; Workman

3.     Jacqueline Kennedy: Historic Conversations on Life with John F Kennedy by Caroline Kennedy; Hyperion AND Jack Kennedy: Elusive Hero by Chris Matthews; Simon & Schuster

4.     Marilyn Monroe: Metamorphosis by David Wills and Stephen Schmidt; HarperCollins

5.     The Batman Files by Matthew Manning; Andrews McMee

Another great gift idea is calendars.  And, Pomegranate is my favorite, especially an artist named Susan Seddon Boulet, whose work is mesmerizing – about Shaman and Goddesses.  Another calendar is the Reading Woman Wall Calendar.  Give it, along with one of the books on my list.

And here is the rest of the list – the highlights of our discussion on Martha Stewart Living – are The Third Gift for kids, The Hunger Games Trilogy for YA, Damned by my friend Chuck Palahniuk, and Out of Oz by Gregory Maguire.

Kids:

 

1.     The Third Gift by Linda Sue Park; Clarion Books

2.     The Happy Elf by Harry Connick, Jr w/CD; HarperCollins

3.     Stars by Mary Lyn Ray and Marla Frazee; Simon & Schuster

4.     Three Classic Children’s Stories – Drawings by Edward Gorey, Text by James Donnelly; Pomegranate

5.     The Wizard of Oz: A Scanimation Book by Rufus butler Seder; Workman

 

YA:

1.     The Hugo Movie Companion by Brian Selznick; Scholastic

2.     The Chronicles of Harris Burdick by Chris Van Allsburg; Houghton Mifflin

3.     WonderStruck by Brian Selznick; Scholastic

4.     Dearly Departed by Lia Habel; Del Rey

5.     The Hunger Games Trilogy by Suzanne Collins; Scholastic

 

 Adult Fiction:

  1. The Christmas Wedding by James Patterson; Little, Brown
  2. Damned by Chuck Palahniuk; Doubleday
  3. 11 / 22 / 63 by Stephen King; Simon & Schuster
  4. The Exorcist: 40th Anniversary Edition by William Peter Blatty; HarperCollins
  5. Out of Oz: The Final Volume in the Wicked Years by Gregory Maguire; William Morrow

 

No secret that I love books.  They saved my life when I was a kid.  They led me outside the abusive world I lived in, to know that there was a greater beauty where I could live instead. What these books have in common – while they’re from all genres – is that connection with that greater gorgeousness.  No coincidence that many of the books on my list were sparked by the authors’ insistent dreams.

Enjoy!  And, feel free to comment on any of these books.

Love,

Diana

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Taking Time To Live

A gorgeous finish to a beautiful day at the Oregon CoastFunny thing about taking time to live.  More stuff gets done.  It’s like pulling your feet off the brakes, and putting them on your handlebars, like you did when you were a kid. And just rolling with it.

And, that process allows for magic.  Hey, I’m a journalist, and I observe magic all the time.

I’m at the Oregon Coast.  I can’t tell you the last time I broke away from my long list of to-do’s, and my sense of lacking money.  Probably three weeks ago, I printed up my 375-page manuscript, pulled out a brand-new red pen to edit the crap out of it, and there it sat.  Chelsea Cain, in Workshop, commented that I should just go somewhere where I’d never been, and bring the thing – not try to edit it at home, amid the dings, pings, and stacks of post-it notes with ideas, details, and things-I-must-do-now.

So, I put it out there.  Much like a dandelion wish, where you blow, and it’s carried away.

I also, many months ago, wished for an all-expense paid trip to a sunny place, knowing that that would probably have to be a plane trip somewhere.

Well, guess what.  4am Friday morning, I’m on a list of people who gets an email from a friend who happens to have trade at a wonderful hotel on the Oregon coast.  Lodging free, and more than enough script to cover my non-alcoholic, sweet-loving ways.  She can’t use it.  Use it or lose it, she wrote – who wants it?  I put in.  I got it.

I brought a small bag of clothes; my manuscript; and I remembered when I arrived, after a beautiful sunny drive, that if somehow I needed a bathing suit, I always carry one in my purse.  Hey, you never know!

I stayed in flow.  Didn’t fight the river.  Didn’t set any alarm.  Smiled a lot.  Laughed even more.  Said thank you thank you thank you all day long.  Because today was bikini weather!  Very warm and sunny, and I sat out on the deck overlooking the ocean, editing my manuscript all day long.  Except for a couple of long walks at the ocean’s edge, in bare feet.  Heaven.  I finished the edits.  My skin is sun-kissed.  And, those post-it notes didn’t nag me one bit.  Relaxing into one of the few sunny days I’ve ever experienced at the coast, it occurred to me that when you put those desires out there, and you don’t worry them, you just let them float aloft like a helium balloon, they get answered so creatively, you could never have imagined it this way.

Stunningly delightful.  I love living.  And, no, I’m not posting the picture of me in my bikini, editing out on the deck.  I ate oysters, burgers, scallops, french fries, creme brulee – too much!

 

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14 Rules for the Little Kid Inside You

For years, I hid it, never spoke about it.  Until finally, it pushed up out of me like a beach ball you press down in the water – it pops out.  Has to.

And, one day, the gift of that childhood trauma becomes apparent.

First, the damage and danger twists synapses, neural pathways, belief systems, trust, whom you love and who you run from.  What does a four-and-a-half year old girl learn from being raped by her mother’s new husband?  Handsome guy, her mother head over heels in love with him, her cutting the little girl’s real father out of every photo, changing the girl’s name, and silencing her when she tries to speak it.  Mother, an alcoholic, suicidal, schizophrenic.  Real father, gone, after the little girl reaches age six, because the stepfather beat him up and told him to never come back.  She never saw her dad again.

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Random Thoughts About Speaking

It’s been awhile since I’ve blogged.  And, this is, in part, an apology for not having checked in.  I’ve been making my own art, and making a living.  I’ve been interviewing and reading – just haven’t written here.

I decided to take tonight “off,” and not produce the 30-minute podcastor, not prep for my next appearance on KOIN-TV’s Studio 6, not rework the last two chapters of my memoir.  Instead, my housemate, who is leading me into learning how to “play,” watched with me the Academy Award winning movie, The King’s Speech.

The film struck me deep.  Read the rest of this entry »

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From a Mom to Her Challenged Son on His Birthday

This is like nothing else I’ve ever written here.

Mental illness, and the challenging journey is on my mind, especially since talking to Linda Gray Sexton about her poet mom, Anne Sexton, on my show, Open Book with Diana Page Jordan. And especially since today is my older son’s 27th birthday.

For nine years – since just before his 18th birthday – my son has been battling Read the rest of this entry »

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Inspired Destiny – Book Review

Inspired Destiny: Living a Fulfilling and Purposeful Life

By Dr John F Demartini

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Published July 15, 2010 (Paperback) Hay House

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Of the dozens of Law of Attraction books I’ve read over my twenty-plus years of interviewing authors, Inspired Destiny is one of the best. Dr. John Demartini doesn’t lecture down from a mount.  He draws from his own difficult beginnings:  A dyslexic kid whom teachers told had no chance of succeeding in the world.  As a teen, he ran off to be a surfer.  The author of dozens of books, he was featured in the film phenom, The Secret.

A little secret from me to you: Read the rest of this entry »

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Arnold and Maria’s Daughter Gives Girls (Of All Ages) Good Advice

Rock What You’ve Got: Secrets to Loving Your Inner and Outer Beauty From Someone Who’s Been There and Back

By Katherine Schwarzenegger

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Published September 14, 2010 (Hardcover) Voice

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“When did life turn into a constant beauty pageant?” Katherine Schwarzenegger asks in her book Rock What You’ve Got.  Smart book.  Substantive.  So before you start hearing her father’s voice saying “I’ll be back,” in your head, listen up.  If you’ve got a daughter – maybe even if you just are a daughter – you’ll relate to a lot in her hot pink and purple book.  I’m interviewing Katherine tomorrow about her book at my home studio.

Only two percent of women describe themselves as beautiful.  Which may mean that those women are the models you see in fashion magazines.  The average fashion model is over six feet tall and weighs far less than 120 pounds.  The average American woman is five feet four inches tall and weighs 140 pounds.  Less than five-percent of all women have the body they see in those mags.  Read the rest of this entry »

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Being Age Five: A Review of the Bestseller ROOM

Room

By Emma Donoghue

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Published September 13, 2010 (Hardcover) Little, Brown and  Company

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If you have a five-year old, you know how pivotal that year is.  A bridge between fantasy and reality, between playing with anything and going to school where you play with what you are given, between trusting just nearby adults and trusting an expanding world.  Trust. What is really real.

Five is a touch-point.  You remember being five in your own life.  What happened then may have altered your direction in life.  It did for me.  It did for Jack, in this bestselling novel by Emma Donoghue.    Read the rest of this entry »

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Magical Self-Healing – Part Two

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Inna Segal’s show aired today on Open Book with Diana Page Jordan.  You can listen to the half-hour show, here, and I also promised in my blog yesterday to give you a few more of the highlights.

Inna’s book is The Secret Language of Your Body.  It is assembled much like a dream dictionary.  Look up your ailing organ, or use color as preventative medicine.  Look up your emotions or your body systems.  It’s cool.  The book’s biggest take-away is that your body is talking to you.  Using Inna’s book, you can interpret its changes, and act accordingly.  The other take-away is that Inna’s life has gotten phenomenally better.  Doors fly open.  She says these words to Universal Intelligence or Divine Intelligence, “How does it get better?”  Then she focuses on her intention. Read the rest of this entry »

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